Cyber bullying
The Internets definition of Cyber bullying-is the use of the Internet and related technologies to harm other people, in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner. As it has become more common in society, particularly among young people, legislation and awareness campaigns have arisen to combat it.
My definition of Cyber bullying- is another form of bullying that just happens to be online and it affects millions of people.
Did you know that 5 states with the highest level of bullying and cyber bullying are; California, New York, Illinois, Pennsylvania and Washington?
Did you know that 52% of students report being cyber bullied and 52% of the students do not tell their parents that it even occurs? Also 33% of teens have experienced cyber bullying threats, 25% of teens have been bullied either through their cell phones or the Internet and 11% of teens have had embarrassing or damaging pictures of them being taken without permission.
Cyber bullying is something that should NEVER happen. People do not realize the danger's of being bullied. I have been a victim of cyber bullying ever since the 7th grade. I always wondered why it always happened to me? What about me provoked them to do and say such horrible things to me? I would always go home to my mom and cry to her everyday. I would always tell her " Everything will be better when I am gone." and she would cry and hold me and pray for me. My 7th grade year was one of my worst years while in middle school or even school period. Everyday when I got home from school, my parents always asked me what is wrong with me and why do I always look sad. I would simply reply " I will be alright" or " It is just nothing, I am fine", when really it is something. Therefore, maybe I have issues with taking things off my chest but there are just some things that I could not tell my parents.
I am the type of person who usually keeps everything inside and bites my tongue when sometimes I should say what I feel. I always ask myself why do I always hold my tongue but never really seem to answer myself. As I get older and older, I realize that when I hold my tongue, arguments are avoided and the stress level becomes higher and higher when it should be lower. I think I hold my tongue because sometimes it truly is not worth arguing or fighting over. When I should not hold my tongue in, I still do because I do not like to hear people argue or fight. When I was younger, I never held my tongue. If I thought it then the next thing I know the words are coming out of my mouth. I used to make excuses saying that I cannot control my mouth but in the end I could have. While this may be true, I wish I could learn how to filter my mouth at the right times and when to let my feelings come out at the right time.
I think that people bully online more today than ever because they may think that it is easier to make the victim feel more insecure and the bully feel more intimidating. In my own opinion, I wish bullying and the various forms of it never even existed because it really makes me look at life from a different perspective. It makes me wonder about the bully and what they went through and did they get bullied before. I wish that I could go out there and help every bully and just sit them down and just talk to them and not at them. I would ask them things like did they ever get bullied before? Do they know the side affects of being bullied? Do they think that bulling is a game? Why do they continue to bully a person if they see that the victim is already in tears? It is things like cyber bullying that really irritates me the most because it is online for everyone to see. Yes at the moment everybody who goes along with the cyber bully thinks that it is all fun and games, did they ever stop to think how the victim feels about this and would they like it if this were to happen to them or one of their family members? Nonetheless I know for a fact that if I were to see cyber bullying going on I would say something to the bully.
I would hope that the victim not only takes a stand and stick up for his or herself not only online but in person also. I think that somebody would be more likely to take a stand online mainly because if they were to do it in person the bully would only make things worse. I see it this way, if the audience who does not know the victim or the bully at all, then the audience should not comment on anything at all! I do not care if they think that it is funny. If it does not have anything to do with the viewers then I feel that they should not post anything at all. My mom has always told me that if they do not say Marlayna in it or if it does not include me, then leave it alone and keep on moving. Now i agree with my mom and I disagree with her because I know if I were to see cyber bullying going on and I know both the victim and the bully, I will say something. I think that even though it has nothing to do with me I would say something on it. Therefore, I believe that the victim would be more liable to take a stand online than in person just because people like to be nosy and instigate the situation and make matters worse.
Honestly, if I were to witness somebody bullying another person, I would step in and would say that they need to pick on somebody their own size. If the victim has done nothing at all to provoke the bully to say the things that they said to them, then that is when I would really step in and seek an adult because nobody deserves to get treated like trash instead of treasure. I believe that everybody is equal and has a place in this world. Who is somebody to tell another person that they do not belong here and other things like that? Who is somebody to tell another person that they are too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too dark or too light? The answer is NOBODY!!! Nobody has the right to tell anybody about their flaws. Above all, when somebody becomes perfect then they can tell another person about their flaws but until then do everybody a favor and keep the comments one has to themselves.
I am always hearing from my grandparents and parents say that " Everything is all fun and games until somebody gets hurt. There is no restart button to life. Life is not a video game. Live it to the fullest and live it safely". I live by this because like cyber bullying, everything is fun and games until somebody gets hurt. What will the bully say to the victims parents because their kid committed suicide because the bully thought the jokes were funny? Sorry? Sorry is not going to bring back their kid! So who ever is reading this post right now, think about the next time a person says a joke. Does the person who receives the joke think that it is funny? Think about it.
I am the type of person who usually keeps everything inside and bites my tongue when sometimes I should say what I feel. I always ask myself why do I always hold my tongue but never really seem to answer myself. As I get older and older, I realize that when I hold my tongue, arguments are avoided and the stress level becomes higher and higher when it should be lower. I think I hold my tongue because sometimes it truly is not worth arguing or fighting over. When I should not hold my tongue in, I still do because I do not like to hear people argue or fight. When I was younger, I never held my tongue. If I thought it then the next thing I know the words are coming out of my mouth. I used to make excuses saying that I cannot control my mouth but in the end I could have. While this may be true, I wish I could learn how to filter my mouth at the right times and when to let my feelings come out at the right time.
I think that people bully online more today than ever because they may think that it is easier to make the victim feel more insecure and the bully feel more intimidating. In my own opinion, I wish bullying and the various forms of it never even existed because it really makes me look at life from a different perspective. It makes me wonder about the bully and what they went through and did they get bullied before. I wish that I could go out there and help every bully and just sit them down and just talk to them and not at them. I would ask them things like did they ever get bullied before? Do they know the side affects of being bullied? Do they think that bulling is a game? Why do they continue to bully a person if they see that the victim is already in tears? It is things like cyber bullying that really irritates me the most because it is online for everyone to see. Yes at the moment everybody who goes along with the cyber bully thinks that it is all fun and games, did they ever stop to think how the victim feels about this and would they like it if this were to happen to them or one of their family members? Nonetheless I know for a fact that if I were to see cyber bullying going on I would say something to the bully.
I would hope that the victim not only takes a stand and stick up for his or herself not only online but in person also. I think that somebody would be more likely to take a stand online mainly because if they were to do it in person the bully would only make things worse. I see it this way, if the audience who does not know the victim or the bully at all, then the audience should not comment on anything at all! I do not care if they think that it is funny. If it does not have anything to do with the viewers then I feel that they should not post anything at all. My mom has always told me that if they do not say Marlayna in it or if it does not include me, then leave it alone and keep on moving. Now i agree with my mom and I disagree with her because I know if I were to see cyber bullying going on and I know both the victim and the bully, I will say something. I think that even though it has nothing to do with me I would say something on it. Therefore, I believe that the victim would be more liable to take a stand online than in person just because people like to be nosy and instigate the situation and make matters worse.
Honestly, if I were to witness somebody bullying another person, I would step in and would say that they need to pick on somebody their own size. If the victim has done nothing at all to provoke the bully to say the things that they said to them, then that is when I would really step in and seek an adult because nobody deserves to get treated like trash instead of treasure. I believe that everybody is equal and has a place in this world. Who is somebody to tell another person that they do not belong here and other things like that? Who is somebody to tell another person that they are too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too dark or too light? The answer is NOBODY!!! Nobody has the right to tell anybody about their flaws. Above all, when somebody becomes perfect then they can tell another person about their flaws but until then do everybody a favor and keep the comments one has to themselves.
I am always hearing from my grandparents and parents say that " Everything is all fun and games until somebody gets hurt. There is no restart button to life. Life is not a video game. Live it to the fullest and live it safely". I live by this because like cyber bullying, everything is fun and games until somebody gets hurt. What will the bully say to the victims parents because their kid committed suicide because the bully thought the jokes were funny? Sorry? Sorry is not going to bring back their kid! So who ever is reading this post right now, think about the next time a person says a joke. Does the person who receives the joke think that it is funny? Think about it.
wow... just wow
ReplyDeleteMarlayna,
ReplyDeleteYou put such a great deal of time and effort into this... I am so proud of you! Thank you for being so open and honest with us. Keep up the hard work! Your courage and strength have made you what you are today!!! Excellent video!